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In choosing the right man for you, you need to use your
Emotional Intelligence (EQ). Here are 10 LOW EQ ways to do it
that will guarantee disaster.
1.Choosing the obvious ones to avoid: addicts, child abusers,
chronic gamblers, felons, boys, etc. If you keep falling in
love with the wrong type of guy, you need help. Please seek it.
2.Choosing by sexual attraction alone. Thats a choice your
reptilian brain is making which is to say not a choice at all.
Choosing implies weighing alternatives and being rational. In
no area of your life do you want your reptilian brain in charge.
It doesnt think. 3.Choosing by externals alone. Its nice if
hes handsome, but not if hes just another pretty face. Are you
choosing a 37 powerboat instead of a man who owns one? His face
will change; his toys may disappear. Its for better or for
worse, not for as long as he can buy me Fendi handbags.
4.Rushing. Date him long enough to go through actual situations
that test what you cant see and touch his values, priorities,
manners, morals, and interests. At first youll go to drag
races, WFW matches and duck hunting just to be with him, right?
Do you really see yourself doing these things every weekend for
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your kids just to get to you? Is he willing to go shopping with
you and to art museums? Only time will tell.
5.Rushing. Give it time so he can sort out his feelings. Men
tend to go from desire to action without thinking in between.
This is why we see them make such poor choices in women, and
then do it again. You may be sure, but is he?
6.Rushing. You need time because even a workaholic will give you
attention 24/7 at first. Only 6 months down the line will you
discover that once hes got you, he compartmentalizes you.
Work comes first, then his golf. Hell summon you when its your
turn.
7.Not checking out his attitude toward women. How does he treat
his mother? Your friends? His sister?
8.Trusting only your intellect. This means gathering facts,
listening to experts, not checking in with your intuition, and
listening to advice blindly. Lets say your best friend, whos
very perceptive, tells you hes a womanizer.
Id give that some weight, but Id check it out myself. It wont
be hard. Give it time, stay awake and youll see.
Another example You made the list of what you wanted. There he
is in front of you, lacking 3 of the 6 items on your list, but
you adore him. You really click. Thats a good time to go back
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mind.
9. Trusting only your feelings. Come now, do you really think
you can make a life with someone who is (admittedly) darling and
sexy BUT hates your religion, has different morals and ethics
than you do, has already alienated your father, wants 6 kids
while you dont want any, refuses to let you work, and has
already ordered you to get rid of your cat?
This is like allowing yourself to fall in love with a married
man. Just go stick an ice pick in your eyeball instead.
10.Misunderstanding the nature of feelings. Our emotions give us
information. They dont demand behavior. When I was a teenager I
was dating a creep. My father told me I had to quit seeing him.
But I love him, I said. Said he: Love someone else. No, you
cant manufacture feelings, but neither do they have to be acted
upon. They can be "taken under advisement," and thought through.
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About the author:
Susan Dunn, MA, Emotional Intelligence Coach,
http://www.susandunn.cc . Coaching, Internet courses and ebooks
on relationships, emotional intelligence, career, transitions,
retirement. Susan is the author of Midlife Dating Survival
Manual for Women, available here:
http://www.webstrategies.cc/ebooklibrary.html . For FREE EQ
ezine, mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc with ezine for subject line.